Just as Jay-Z says, “On to the next one…”, that’s where I’m headed!
How often have you ever had a “feeling” about something or someone and rather than trusting your intuition, you convince yourself to believe otherwise? And usually when we convince ourselves otherwise, it never turns out good?
Well, that’s what happened to me recently.
In my last post I talked about a new guy. This handsome, loving and tender man who I met in Jamaica.
Well, we talked and texted each other just about everyday for a month and then he told me he was taking a vacation and would love to see me.
My schedule was tight, I was driving from NY to Miami the week he was off, but he would still be off in the weekend after I returned. So, I gave it some thought. It would be a quick turnaround, not much time for me to unpack or get settled, but if this is someone I was truly interested in, then I would love to see him, especially if we could spend some quality time together to decide if we should continue this romance.
So, I made it happen.
However, a few days preceding my departure, I felt something was off. We rarely got a chance to speak with one another because of my driving schedule, and even when we did, he seemed to be very busy. I asked him if he still wanted me to come, and he said of course, but honestly, I questioned whether or not to get on the plane, right up until I got on the plane. Seriously! I was at the airport thinking, “any minute he can text me or call and tell me not to come” and I wouldn’t have gotten on the plane. It was like I was waiting for a sign, something, to confirm my intuition.
That didn’t happen however, and I was off to Jamaica. Everything was smooth about my journey; everyone was in good spirits and friendly, I flew business class and the seat next to me was open, somebody helped me with my bags, there was no line at customs and the weather as always was beautifully warm. Then I got the text message that was my first sign. My guy had left late to come pick me up. Now, I know you rarely hear me use this blog to vent, so I’ll keep this short. :P
Under no circumstances, no reasons or excuses should someone who has invited you to visit them from another country be 50 minutes late to pick you up at the airport. Send a car, have a driver there, make sure the person is taken care of, be respectful of the time the person has dedicated in coming to see you.
Ok, I’m done. ;)
That was my sign, and the only sign I needed. I thought to myself while I was waiting, to just walk on back to departures and go home, but I wanted to think positive!
Let’s just say that the way it started was the way it went and how it ended. I was disappointed with just about everything, including my choice to stay. I’m sure my energy did not project positivity either. I was so angry that even though I said I would let it go and not let it determine the outcome of the trip, I was still questioning everything that was said and done. After he was late, to some degree my hunch was that it wouldn’t go well, and so it didn’t!
However there is always a silver lining in every cloud and for this trip it was the lesson of trusting my intuition! Also on my last night a very good friend came out to see me, to make sure I was okay, so that was really nice. Despite everything though, I’m grateful I do not have to spend the next six months wondering if this romance is going to go anywhere! It was a tough lesson, but I’m glad I know now.
That is why trusting yourself is SO important. It is not up to the other person to make you feel better about your choices, it is solely up to you! You are the only person who can control how you feel about any given situation, so go with your gut and you’ll sort everything out later.
Now, on to the good stuff! :)
(I’ll always end a post on a positive note, you know that!) ;)
The drive from NYC to Miami was AWESOME!!!
Talk about intuition; I had a very strong feeling that I would be driving my car from NY to FL and I wouldn’t be doing it alone. I asked one of my very good friends from FL if she would do the drive with me and about a week later she said yes. :) (There was a little convincing I needed to do, but mostly she was a yes from the beginning.) :)
Everything in my being told me this was going to be a great trip. We planned on stopping in two cities before landing in FL. The first was Asheville, NC. I don’t know why I’ve always wanted to visit Asheville, but it was always on my mind and now I can cross it off my list! We stayed in Asheville for 2 nights, and thanks to the divine powers of status updates on FaceBook, a friend who I went to summer camp with about 17 years ago saw my update of being in Asheville and contacted me because that’s where she is living now! So, 17 years later, we reconnect after our day visiting the Biltmore Estate, and she took us to a great restaurant in Downtown called Doc Chey’s. I had a yummy Pad Thai with chicken. I can still taste it. :) After dinner, she took us on a walking tour of Downtown and we concluded the evening with ice cream from Marble Slab Creamery. YUM! The next day before we left Asheville, my friend HIGHLY recommended we visit the Grove Park Inn and boy are we glad we did! (www.groveparkinn.com) A beautiful Inn set in the mountainside with gorgeous views and lots of history. We ate lunch at the Spa Cafe, which by the way was the most expensive spa meal I’ve had, but the food was very good and we were served on white tablecloths and were sitting in rich brown leather chairs. Plus, the walk to get to the restaurant was pure bliss. LOL! It had that serene spa smell and it felt like we were walking through the mountain!
So, Asheville was awesome!
Our next stop was in Savannah, GA! Another place I had always dreamed of visiting. Such a beautiful city, rich in history, beautiful homes, lovely people and the weather was nice too!
We were there for a day and took a Trolley tour of the city. We stopped in at Mrs. Wilkes restaurant, (www.mrswilkes.com) which served some yummy southern cooking and boy was it plentiful! It’s worth the wait in line, so if you’re there, GO! :)
We walked through parks, and had a blast taking lots of pictures. Our hotel was great too, located right in the historic district, and with wonderful views of the river and the Talmadge Memorial Bridge.
After having another lovely breakfast in our hotel with the view of the river, our drive to FL was easy, not to mention it was also a beautiful day!
This was definitely a great trip! The time spent with my friend was delicious; we have broadened our friendship to a new level, the drive was fun, the scenery was beautiful, the food was DIVINE, and the bonus was reconnecting with an old friend.
What’s better than that? Well, having dreamed of visiting Asheville and Savannah, now I can say, it’s time for me to dream of new places to visit! :)
So, moral of the post…
Trust your intuition! Follow your heart and if you can dream it, you can do it, have it, see it and make it happen! ;)
‘Til next time, thanks for reading and Happy Dreaming! :)